I am 35 years old and I have a girlfriend. I do not want to impregnate her. I am not ready for a child, but every time I use the condom, I have problems. I am allergic to latex and it really bothers me. I told my girlfriend that she should go on the Pill, but she said that she is tired of taking it.
I don’t know what to do. My girlfriend is 10 years older than I am and she does not like to take advice from me. She has been threatening me that if I will not use the condom, she will have to go find another man. I can’t afford for her to do that to me, because many people already know that we are friends.
Please Pastor, give me your advice.
Your problem is not unusual. Many men are allergic to latex condoms, and so are some women. If you and your girlfriend are determined to have sex, there are alternatives. One, your girlfriend can use female condoms or she may consider using the diaphragm. The diaphragm would have to be fitted into her by a doctor because you would have to use the correct size. The diaphragm is not a one-size-fits-all contraceptive. It has to be used correctly. You should also discuss with your doctor about the different types of condoms that you can use; but I must tell you that it is believed that latex condoms are safer than others. It is also said that female condoms are about 95 per cent effective. Check with you medical professional as soon as possible.