July 27, 2022

I Want My Daughter To Divorce Her Deadbeat Husband

Dear Pastor,

I am in my 50s. I only have a few more years before I retire. My wife is older than I am. She is not ready to retire but I am tired. I have a beautiful wife and a beautiful home and wonderful children. I have a problem with one of my sons-in-law. He does not treat his wife well so I told him not to come around our house.

I told my daughter to divorce him but she is a leader in her church and in her church, people are not to divorce each other. I told my daughter that if she does not divorce him, what her mother and I have, she will not get any part of it. I mean it.

This man will run after every skirt and he is still going to clubs and spending his money on prostitutes. He has even had sex with a family member and because I condemned that behaviour, he hates me.

My wife’s heart is softer than mine. But I can’t stand the guy because he does not support his family. Is there anything in the Bible that says a woman should not divorce a man who does not support her or his family? I don’t know why my daughter married this guy. I can’t forgive him for the way he treats my daughter. I will be looking in the newspaper for your answer.


Dear D.W.,

I understand what you are trying to say. But your daughter is married to this man and she believes that she should stay with him until death parts them. You would like to see her treated better. And as a father, you expected this man to respect and honour her and take care of his family.

I hope that you will not hold what I am about to say against me. I am going to ask you to take your hands off the relationship between your daughter and her husband. What I am trying to say is, get out of their lives. Let them fight their battle alone. She does not intend to divorce her husband. Don’t try to force her to do so. The Bible says a man must leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and parents should not get between them. So I repeat, get out of your daughter’s life with this man.

Whenever she asks you for advice, feel free to give her advice as a father, but leave them alone. Let them fight their own battle.